Children Behaviour

“No I Won’t and You Can’t Make Me!”

  Do your kids talk back to you or ignore you? Have they kicked and hit you? Do you feel helpless and out of control yourself when it comes to getting your children to respect you? Do you find yourself yelling at your kids or locking yourself in the bathroom and crying? Are your children running your house?

  If you answered yes, I am here to tell you that it is not your fault!  Kids everywhere are treating their parents with disrespect. Kids who disrespect their parents also disrespect their teachers, law enforcement and anyone who is making rules and telling them what to do. This is becoming a national epidemic.

  YOU, the parent have the power to change this behavior. But in order to do this you  must put a stop to back talk, interrupting, face making and negative body language in home.

  Well, you say, “Easier said than done!”

  Actually, it is simple. The trick is that it takes consistency and a poker face from you.

Every time your child engages in one of these negative behaviors, you have to block him/her.

You ask, “Every time? Are you crazy?” “How do I do this?”

Here’s the DRILL:

There are two techniques you can use depending on the child’s age.

=> For children 3 to 10 years old use my version of Time Out. This is a warning system based on 3 chances. If the child persists the child is sent to a designated time out zone in your home. A timer is set to the child’s age. IF the child objects, cries, screams, leaves the time out zone, the timer is reset to the beginning.

=> For children over 10 years of age, simply stating what you expect will be enough. You say to your son or daughter:  “Do not speak to me that way.” Or  “Do not interrupt me.” Or  “Do not make that face.”

AND the trick is, you have to keep saying it until s/he stops and you must remain calm and not give up until s/he stops the behavior.

I guarantee you, that if you keep repeating one of these sentences to your child, with your poker face on, s/he will stop. They will be so shocked, that you are following through, AND that you are not looking or sounding angry.

You are commanding respect.

Do not let this behavior slide. You need to be ON 100%. So pick a day that you are rested and in fairly good spirits, have someone you can call for support if you feel yourself caving . . . and carry on COMMANDING RESPECT, you deserve it!